“We can think of life as a series of steps leading towards our dreams and goals. We start at point A and wish to proceed to point B but end at point S (stupid).” writes Dr. Stass.
Have you ever had a forehead smacking moment and said, “How could I have been so stupid?” My guess is yes since, according to Dr. Stass, stupidity is part of the human condition. Stupidities range from the innocuous (walking into a glass door because you’re not paying attention) to heartbreaking (affairs or abuses that end relationships) to life-threatening (like taking an unknown mountain road at night, in the dead of winter, before cell phones, thinking it was s shortcut and getting stuck in the snow when the road ended … yep, that one was me).
Why do we do these things? Dr. Stass draws on thirty-five years as a psychiatrist working in both inpatient and outpatient settings to explain the fundamental mechanics governing stupid actions. He identifies the most common types of stupidity and then breaks stupidity down into its component parts. Most importantly, he give tools and techniques to prevent, minimize and learn more effectively from our mistakes. Continued here.
I’ve read a number of books lately on aging beautifully (‘be prepared’ is my motto), and Dr. Julie Stass, a therapist and equine coach, takes a fresh and thoughtful approach to the subject. In this book, she asks herself how far she is prepared to go to preserve a youthful appearance. She’s done the research into the products and procedures available, all promising to help the aging woman preserve her looks and soothe her fears of looking old and losing social value. And, she’s looked at the before and after pictures of those who have had various procedures in the plastic surgeon’s office.
I read somewhere that you get the face you deserve and Dr. Stass reiterates this when she says that in all the photos she examined, while the surface physiology might have changed (lines smoothed, sagging lifted, and wrinkles plumped), the persons' expressions did not. If the person's expression was sad, anxious or depressed before the surgery or procedure, the sadness, anxiety or depression still came through after the procedure. And - this is the important bit - it’s a person’s expression that we react to in order to determine whether or not they are truly beautiful. If they can’t make any authentic expressions at all (think over Botoxed) we don’t know what to make of them. Continued here.